How to Gain Confidence in Anything
Just Do It. Then Keep Doing it.
Just Do It. Then Keep Doing it.
Initiative+Perseverance x Action+Resolve / Repetition = Confidence²
Have you ever had a friend or family member who lacked confidence?
Have you ever tried to help them gain confidence?
Have YOU ever lacked confidence?
I have.
But it was not always easy to articulate.
I grew up with a mother who spoke of confidence as if it were some innate quality that some people have, and some don’t.
She always told me that I was very confident, and I must have gotten it from my dad.
She would say about herself “I just never really had any confidence”, like it was a mystery she never unraveled.
I was an adult before I would realize this was a giant cop-out.
Not a completely conscious cop-out, but a cop-out nonetheless.
In a way, it was sidestepping responsibility for action, but I don’t think she was aware of it completely.
She’s sensitive, almost made of glass emotionally, and always takes everything personally.
Until she found her art — she loves sewing and stitching artwork. She has made me many beautiful images stitched in cloth.
In her art, she has plenty of confidence.
I pointed this out to her…..
Everyone — you, me, your dog — has lacked confidence at some point in their lives.
Sometimes confidence is contextual — something we haven’t done before and we are apprehensive and aware of our own lack of experience and potential for injury.
Other times confidence more abstract — like dating, or self image.
But in ALL cases — confidence is NOT something that we are born with.
So why do some people seem to possess an abundance of it, and others…. less?
Very often, it’s not confidence that they lack.
It is INITIATIVE and then, PERSEVERANCE.
Some people do seem to have an inborn INITIATIVE — which is NOT the same as confidence — while others lack it, and lacking this leads to less confidence over time.
Initiative — which merely means initiating action - leads to earlier development of confidence.
Anything we do repeatedly, we eventually gain confidence in.
The will to do it — Initiative — and keep doing it even when we fail— Perseverance— that is where we need to develop ourselves.
Talking to the opposite sex. Mastering a craft. Speaking in front of a crowd. Playing an Instrument. Etc etc.
No one starts having abundant confidence. But we MUST have INITIATIVE to start, PERSEVERANCE to keep trying after failure, RESOLVE to change our actions to get better results, and REPEATED ACTION until we gain confidence.
Confidence comes AFTER action, repetition, altering your action in favor of positive outcome, and the conditioning of increased positive outcomes.
Sometimes this process gets stunted in early childhood if something goes wrong, or if we just lack the resources (supportive friends / family) to assist when developing.
There is no magic confidence pill, and there is no one who is born entirely confident of themselves.
Our childhood experiences impact us, but only repeated action develops us.
My dad’s take was always simple :
“Do you want to do something? Do it. Keep doing it until you can do it well. No sense in crying when you mess up. Learn and keep going. You’ll get better. Understand?”
Very simple…. but it turns out to be very true.
Sometimes we overthink things, or we just don’t think about things.
It’s easier to say to ourselves that some ability is somehow just innate for some, but not for poor us, we just missed the boat….. only….. that’s usually just not true.
So if you have a friend or family member who lacks confidence — sometimes the best way to push them is to remind them that only repetition and action will bring the results they want, and support them through their failures, push them without judging them, and watch their confidence slowly build until they are running full speed, often taking completely for granted that they have even gained any confidence at all.
Welcome to “Flow State”, AKA — confidence in motion, harmonious action and repetition.
I am seeking to develop that with crypto trading bots.
This last year, my crypto bots exceeded all other sources of online income for me.
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Friends and family ask — “How did you learn to do that?”
Well, one day I whipped out my phone, and I just started doing it.
Then I kept doing it.
Think of Forest Gump when he started running.
THAT — is Initiative.
No one gave it to me, but I have a feeling it started when I learned to swim and I was just thrown into the pool.
…..Then I kept learning about what I wanted to do.
…..Failing, and learning.
Until….. my efforts started to pay off.
Now I am gaining confidence.
“So you just stick money into an app, and it spits out money?”
No, not really.
I had to have :
1) The Initiative to start in the first place
2) The Perseverance to keep trying after failing
3) Resolve to adjust my actions and keep going
Thank you for reading!
Until next time….
Onward and Upward Everybody!
-Chris
Automated Income Lifesyle w/ Chris Morton YouTube
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